By: Nathalie Akinin | 8 MAGA

How many times do we ask ourselves that question? And how often do we respond with vulnerability?

Let me give you an example of how we answer without thinking: When we encounter someone early in the morning and they ask us, “Good morning, how are you?” Without hesitation, we mechanically respond, “Fine, thank you.” Even though sometimes it’s not true, that response is automatic and lacks genuine feelings.

The question in our post, “How do I feel today,” is much deeper than we think. We fill our lives with numerous activities to keep our minds occupied, and we don’t take the time to internalize how we feel emotionally. We end up giving “false” answers so that others don’t see our vulnerability, and we hide behind our masks.

The idea is not to perform a self-analysis or attempt to reconstruct everything in a day. However, we must start looking within ourselves with a new awareness, using internal questions that can help us understand what we want, where we want to go, and how we currently feel, among other things.

Asking yourself truthfully and responding truthfully will assist you in being more assertive and real when it comes to taking action and making a change.

Here’s an example: If you ask yourself, “How am I?” and your response is “bad, sad, okay, confused, stressed, upset, or I don’t know how I feel,” you should accompany these answers with the following questions:

• Why do I feel this way?
• What do I feel with this emotion?
• What can I do to change it?
• Is this feeling really true?
• Am I truly a victim?

Once you answer and understand your position regarding these thoughts, you can ask yourself the following questions again:

• Can it be resolved?
• Is it really mine?
• Can I do something about it?
• Is it my responsibility to get involved and take action, or is it not my concern?

Questions like “How do you feel?” will provide us with a more accurate view. By recognizing the origin of your emotion, you can gauge the degree and level of how you feel, enabling you to have a clearer understanding of your feelings and empowering you to take more responsibility.

From now on, when you ask yourself, “How do I feel today?” respond with honesty. You could even add an affirmation to your response to make it more powerful:

“…better because I am utilizing my new talent, my newfound composure, with a positive attitude…”

What do you think? Are you willing to make that change from now on? I would greatly appreciate your comment and hearing your thoughts on this new way of responding. Will you think twice when someone approaches you?

Don’t hide your feelings; they are all important for your maturity and emotional growth.

Affirmations are important, but if we merely recite them without exploring and delving deeper, we won’t truly understand what we genuinely feel. As a coach, the first thing I work on is teaching people to identify and recognize their emotions through powerful questions. By acknowledging and shifting their perspective with responsibility and honesty, individuals enter a new level of consciousness and alignment, combined with a positive attitude. Starting this new habit for 21 days strengthens and ingrains it into your system, preparing you for future emotional processes.

To gain further insight into enhancing your emotional well-being, schedule a complimentary consultation with Nathalie Akinin at Oasis Spa.